A Vicious War

What Is It?

We are at war. At stake is the welfare of every man, woman, and child that’s alive today. Most of this fighting can’t be detected by the naked eye. Most of the battles can’t be heard. The injured and killed are not obvious. The enemy is invisible. But nevertheless, this war is a vicious one.

The war has been going on for a long time and trumps World War II and all other wars combined in its importance.

The war is for the hearts and minds of people. It’s a war for people to accept the reality of Jesus and what he has done for them. At stake are their eternal destinies. Most will be casualties. Only a few will emerge victorious (Matthew 7:14).

You may say, “I don’t want to fight. I don’t want to be in a war. I just want to be left alone and enjoy life.” But like it or not, you are in a war and are either a soldier for God or Satan.

Are We At War?

If we are genuine Christians, God sees us as his soldiers fighting with him against his enemy Satan. He uses the following military terms and phrases to refer to our lives:

  • Put on the full armor
  • Stand against
  • Flaming arrows
  • Soldier
  • The enemy is trying to devour you
  • The enemy is trying to kill and destroy you
  • Life is a struggle against supernatural evil forces
  • Held captive

Some more evidence that we are at war is the following:

  • Satan declared war on all Christians (Revelations 12:17)
  • Christians are to help people escape from being held captive by Satan to do what he wants them to do (2 Timothy 2:26)
  • “No soldier (a Christian) in active service entangles himself in the affairs of everyday life, so that he may please the one who enlisted him as a soldier” (2 Timothy 2:4).

We can try to desert. We can try to surrender. But there is much truth in the saying that “a hero dies but once, a coward dies a thousand deaths.”

soldier stands with arms together with other

Next time we will share how we can be equipped to serve our commander with distinction.

How do we stop lying, being angry and bitter, and putting people down? How do we stop grieving the Holy Spirit and stealing?

Last time we talked about how important it was to stop doing these bad things – but how?

One way we can stop doing these things is by trying harder. But that doesn’t work because stopping these things requires that our heart changes and only God can do that (John 15:5).

Another way is to increase our Bible knowledge, and by knowing more our faith will increase and then we will have greater power to stop. But that doesn’t work unless the knowledge is trusted and applied (James 1:22).

bad habits

So, what works?

Getting rid of our old sinful ways begins with the recognition that we have old, sinful ways. Some of them are obvious such as stealing, lying, or putting people down. But grieving the Holy Spirit, making food an idol, or seeking to make a good impression to feel important may not be so obvious.

So, we ask God to “search our heart, try us and know our anxious thoughts, and see if there is any hurtful way in us, and lead us in the everlasting way” (Psalm 139:23-24, paraphrased).

He will reveal what needs to be put off and will enable us to replace it with his way. For example, a few years ago he wanted me to stop relying on a particular person’s opinion of me to determine what I thought of myself. He wanted me to replace it with what he thought of me, which was that I was precious, honored and deeply loved (Isaiah 43:4).

We need to keep in mind that the stopping is his job. We are slaves to our old ways and only supernatural power will bring true change to our hearts. He wants us to partner with him in putting off the old (Matthew 11:28). He provides the muscle and we provide the cooperation. “If by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live” (Romans 8:13, NIV).

So, how do we stop living the old, sinful ways? Let’s apply the information above.

  • Ask God what one thing that he wants you to be working with him to put off
  • Ask Him what he wants you to put on in it’s place
  • Then ask him to help you to put it off and to show you what he wants you to do to cooperate

 

We don’t like to change. In fact we tend to cling to our usual ways of living even when they don’t work very well.

But God says to put off the old and put on the new. What old, and what new?

In my case, it’s to put off my old identity of being a person who has to work hard to have importance, be loved, and be okay. Instead, God wants me to put on my new identity of being important, loved, and okay without having to do anything. I’m his kid! Loving fathers don’t demand performance before they give what a child needs to feel loved, important and accepted.

But I have been trained to perform-and now God wants me to put that belief off at a deeper level that I must earn love, acceptance and worth from him and put on the belief that I already have those needs met by being God’s kid. But how do I get rid of a belief that I’ve held for most of my life?

But before we talk about the how, let’s talk about the why.

a sign post of changing to a new way of life

Why the Old Needs to Go

Most of us have little idea how much we have been molded to conform to the world when we start following God. “Do not love the world, nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world” (I John 2:15-16).

So God tells us to put off this accumulated baggage and to put on his way of living life. We often try to put on the new without getting rid of the old. We try to put new wine in old wineskins, which ruins the new wine (Luke 5:37). For example, if we fail to get rid of the notion that we can achieve our way into being a godlier person, we will often turn our ministries into another attempt to view ourselves as good Christians. We fail to minister to serve others.

In Ephesians 4, God says for us put off and to put on these things:

  • From lying to telling the truth
  • From anger to love
  • From bitterness to forgiveness
  • From putting people down to encouraging them
  • From grieving the Holy Spirit to walking in the Spirit
  • From stealing to working hard at a job

But how do we do this? How do we put off the old?

How We Get Rid of the Old

Next time we will discuss how we can get rid of the old habits of living so that we can embrace the new life.

Last week we discussed how rich we are but often live like it’s not true. Why does this happen? Probably the biggest reason is that we are ignorant about the great things that God has done for us. As a result, we continue to live in poverty.

We also discussed that God has to be the one who enables us to realize how rich we are and to live rich. However, God requires us to cooperate with him in order for him to reveal and make practical the riches he has given us.

Impressive high ceiling living room with antique furniture, columns and balcony

Why We Are Rich

We are rich because, in God’s eyes we are always

  • Deeply loved
  • Totally accepted
  • Precious

God also

  • Showers us with mercy and favor
  • Gives insight into his thinking
  • Gives us life forever with him

Living in these riches means that

  • We don’t have to please everybody because God totally accepts us.
  • It’s okay to be us because we are precious to God just the way we are.
  • We’re important and don’t need to perform well to be important.
  • The future is bright because our loving Father controls it.
  • We can know God intimately because he longs to reveal himself to us.
  • We look forward to heaven with great anticipation.

Cooperating with God

God is the one who enables us to understand and to live richly. However, we cooperate by asking God for understanding and wisdom (Ephesians 1:16-19).

Another way we cooperate is by knowing the Bible. The Bible tells us how rich we are and how we can live in this reality. It teaches, reproves, corrects, and trains us (2 Timothy 3:16). Following it helps us to avoid trying to become rich through our own efforts, which is unnecessary and futile.

We also cooperate by identifying false beliefs about how poor we are and learn to embrace the truth of our riches. We do this by relying on the Holy Spirit to teach and empower our efforts (Ephesians 4:22-24).

A fourth way we cooperate is to cultivate the habit of responding to the truth that we hear and study. Responding is what makes spiritual giants. Letting truth go by without acting upon it is what hardens our hearts (James 1:22). It makes us live like paupers instead of royalty.

May we be encouraged to discover how rich we are and to live in this reality. Let’s rest in the riches of having been given everything we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3, paraphrased).

This week I have been asked by my church to teach on Ephesians 1. The basic message from the chapter is that God has made us believers rich. Our response is to give him thanks and ask him to help us realize how rich we are.

One of these riches for me has been a new identity.

Instead of being someone who is not very important unless he is achieving or impressing, I now rest more in being important all the time.

Instead of being someone who doesn’t feel loved unless certain people approve of me, I now rest more in being loved even when rejected.

Instead of being someone who feels unacceptable when I fail to meet my standards, I now rest in being acceptable even when I fail miserably.

But is having a new identity the only thing that makes us rich?

Why We Are Rich

We are rich because we are God’s kids, Thus we are greatly loved, protected, accepted and respected, just like children in a loving family.

We have been given everything we need to live a full and productive life (2 Peter 1:3).

We can live in an intimate relationship with him now and will live forever with him in heaven, painless, joyous, and meaningful lives (Revelations 21:4).

God has made us rich. But many of us don’t possess this reality in our experience. God challenges us like he did Israel to possess the reality that we are rich.

God said to Israel and says to us,

“See, I have placed the land before you; go in and possess the land which the LORD swore to give to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob” (Deuteronomy 1:8).

Like Israel, we must fight to possess what God has given to us as a gift.

Tropical villa

Living Like a Rich Person

The first step in living like a rich person is to realize that it’s God’s job to make it real for us. As Israel needed God fighting for them to possess the Promised Land, we need God fighting for us to escape living like a pauper.

God says to us through Moses, “Do not be terrified; do not be afraid of them. The Lord your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as he did for you in Egypt (Deuteronomy 1:29-30).

But to live the reality of being rich will involve a great fight by us too.

However, God leads the way as Paul indicates when he prays, “I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints” (Ephesians 1:18).

Therefore, God fights for us as we cooperate with him to possess the reality of being rich.

Next week, we will discuss how we can cooperate with God in living like the rich people we are.

It occurred to me this week that I need to let go of some old things in my life. By hanging on to them, I was hurting my ability to embrace the new.

One of them was the church I used to attend. It was my home for 31 years. Yet, I needed to move on. I was now in a different place and needed a different place to thrive and serve. Yet, my heart was sad and a part of me wanted to live in the past.

Another thing I think I need to leave behind is the counselor that I have gone to over the years for a variety of issues. He had become a trusted advisor. But now, it seems I need help with an issue that has exhausted his expertise. But I am resisting seeking new counsel. I want to stick with the known and trusted.

A final area that I may need to let go of is leading a small spiritual growth group for mature Christians. I have been doing this kind of ministry for many years. It’s part of my identity. I get blessed and the ministry seems to bless others.

But God seems to be blocking every effort I make to do this ministry at the new church. Instead, is providing an opportunity to lead small groups of people who aren’t even Christians yet or just beginning to live the Christian life.

God seems to be leading me to leave behind the past behind, so that I will have the time to embrace this new kind of ministry.

But what does it mean to leave the past behind?

What It Means

Leaving the past behind involves choosing to follow God’s will instead of clinging to our past (1 Peter 4:2). Even when some of our past was doing God’s will, he now may want to take us in new directions.

When I first became a Christian, God wanted me to leave behind moving back to Illinois from California. He also wanted me to leave behind my parents’ wishes for me to be an engineer, and instead follow his wishes. He also wanted me to leave behind my grandiose dreams of career success, and instead seek less demanding jobs that would allow me more time for ministry.

Why Do It

We leave behind the past so that we can embrace the exciting future God has for us. “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:17). But we must leave the past behind to experience this new life.

We leave the past behind because it’s a poor substitute for the life God wants us to have. “And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or property, for My sake, will receive a hundred times as much in return and will inherit eternal life” (Matthew 19:29, NLT). The benefits of leaving behind the things that are no longer God’s will, far out weigh the costs to receive them.

Another reason to let go of the past is that by hanging on we can miss the abundant life God wants to give us. For example, we may be clinging to the false hope from our past that by trying hard to please, we can eventually squeeze out enough love to be satisfied.

But we will never be satisfied with this false hope. “Human desire is never satisfied” (Proverbs 27:20, NLT). Instead, God offers us the experience of his deep love for us that has no strings attached. “My love for you is so great that it is beyond your understanding” (Psalm 103:11, Paraphrased).

But when we fail to leave behind our efforts to earn love from the past, we fail to experience God’s too-good-to-be-true love for us that is true.

So, how do we leave the past behind in order to embrace the wonderful future God has planned for us?

Illustration depicting a sign with a leave it in the past concept.

What Helps To Do It

We need to be intentional about identifying our past that needs to go and put it off. We do this by relying on the Spirit to identify and free us from false beliefs and dependencies (Romans 8:13).

Two examples of false beliefs for me are that I can’t do anything with my hands, and I’m not worth very much unless I achieve and impress. Both these beliefs are false and need to be rejected and left behind.

As I do this, I will be freer to accept the wonderful truths that I’m acceptable and precious to God, no matter what.

Another thing we can do to escape the past is to fill our minds with God’s thoughts that are given in the Bible. God sees life and us greatly different than we do. As we get to know him through the Bible, he transforms us so that we think his thoughts and become better able to leave our past behind. (2 Corinthians 3:18).

A friend of mine recently shared how he didn’t measure up to his mother’s expectations. He gave an example of how he once got a 103.9% in a course, and it wasn’t good enough. Why? There was one other child who got better, a course score of 104%.

When I heard this I couldn’t believe it. I said, “This is insane! How long did it take you to figure out that your mother was wrong?” I asked. He answered “Many years.” Many years! This is a crazy standard to have to live by for many years. And I still wonder how much he has been affected by setting impossible standards for himself.

Then I recalled my wife. She knew God loved her. But this wasn’t good enough. She needed more. She needed the approval of others to feel loved enough. So, she twisted herself into all kinds of behaviors to be liked and approved of by others. She lost the freedom to be herself and rest in God’s approval as being good enough.

Both my friend and my wife recognized their bondage to sinful beliefs. These were beliefs like, “I must be the best, in order to be worth much.” Or, “ I have to be liked by everyone to be greatly loved.”

Relying on these false beliefs enslaved them for many years. Now, they have learned to experience considerable freedom as they have learned to rely on God more to meet their needs for worth and love.

So, are you living free on this 4th of July and everyday of the year?

US flag on blue sky with clouds and sunlight with phrase

What Living Free Means

Living free is not just avoiding government oppression. It is also living free from beliefs and behaviors that hinder us from living a life of joy and power (Hebrews 12:1).

For example, do we have a difficult time resting from the busy week? “But there’s so much to do. If I don’t do it, who will?” we may say. But this answer may show that we are actually in bondage to the false belief that there is no God who is faithful to help get things done even when we take time out to rest.

Living free is not being controlled by our circumstances. It means we face the day living in the reality that nothing will happen to us that God has not allowed. “Whether for correction, or for His world, or for lovingkindness, He causes it to happen” (Job 37:13). This means that we can face scary and difficult circumstances knowing that God is carefully watching over us.

Living free is living without idols. John Calvin says that our hearts “are idol factories.” What are your idols? Popular idols include being accepted by certain people, promotion, food, achievement, success, and meeting self-imposed standards. The list is endless. The common denominator is that we are looking to meet our needs in them apart from relying on God to meet our needs in his way and in his time.

So, how can we live in freedom on the 4th of July and everyday of the year?

How We Can Grow in Freedom

One of the first steps to freedom is recognizing where we are failing to be free. We can best do this by asking God to show us (Psalm 139:23-24).

We can’t rely on what we already know about ourselves because we are good self-deceivers. He will be faithful to show us how we are failing to live in his truth when we sincerely ask him.

I started doing this several years ago and was I surprised! I found I was in bondage to what people thought of me to be okay and to achievement to be important. I am living in greater freedom now resting in my identity as a child of God and God’s viewpoint of me.

Another path to greater freedom is difficult times. As we embrace them, they shake us out of our complacency and commitment to the status quo. Our pain can drive us to depend on God in deeper ways. As Paul discovered, “I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me” (2 Corinthians 12:9). That power can lead to trusting deeply in God’s great love, respect, and acceptance of us instead of trying to earn them through an idol.

Finally, we need to realize that we will need to wait until heaven to be completely free from our bondages. May we be comforted by his promise that “I will continue to give you greater freedom in this life and finish the job when Jesus returns” (Philippians 1:6, Paraphrased).

Most of us don’t feel significant at least some of the time. Much of life undermines our confidence in being important. From the way people treat us to our standards for perfection, we are challenged to feel that we are much more than a small cog in a huge machine.

I have concocted many ways to avoid feeling insignificant. As a college student I studied engineering to gain significance. I didn’t study it because I liked it or thought I would do a good job – But to gain prestige and with it a feeling of significance.

As a middle-aged man I sought promotion in my career to feel significant. I also sought church leadership to feel good about myself, as well as to do some good to those I sought to minister to.

But life doesn’t always make us feel significant. In my case, I often didn’t get the promotions I sought or when I did the problems that came with them made me feel insignificant. I also found church leadership often made me feel over-my-head and insignificant.

I have spent my entire life running away from insignificance. I have spent enormous energy running away from low self-esteem that was developed in my childhood.

So, what are your reasons that you struggle with feeling insignificant?

Why We Feel Insignificant

One reason we struggle with feeling insignificant is that we assume that if people don’t respect us that much, then we are not respectable. We allow others to define our worth. Most of us don’t have a healthy awareness of how much God respects us to counter the mixed messages that we get from how we are treated by others, including church people.

Another reason we feel insignificant is that we often pursue idols to feel important. These would be things like impressing others, our standards for achievement, and being strong. But these things never will make us feel significant in the long run. Attaining these things will never enable us to escape our feelings of insignificance. They are broken cisterns as described in Jeremiah 2:13.

A third reason for our feelings of insignificance is that it makes sense to think of ourselves as insignificant. “What are mere mortals that you should think about them, human beings that you should care for them?” (Psalm 8:4, NLT). How could we possibly believe that we were significant just using our human reasoning and the facts?

How We Can Feel Significant

So, how do we embrace the reality that we are significant when so many forces are screaming that we aren’t?

First, to escape our feelings of insignificance we need to know that we are significant, right now. We are far more precious to God than we are to anyone else in the world (Isaiah 43:4). Only by stubbornly clinging to this truth can we overcome the avalanche of conflicting massages that bombard us each day.

We also need to drop our bad habit of trying to escape feelings of worthlessness by comparing ourselves to others. We will either develop pride or jealousy as “we measure ourselves by ourselves and are without understanding” (2 Corinthians 10:12, Paraphrased).

A final thought that may help us escape our feelings of insignificance is to ponder the fact that we have been made like God (Genesis 1:27). He has made us to have a love relationship with him. He longs to be intimate with us and to walk with us through life.

Pondering this, I feel more significant already!

Fede e misticismo

Father and son playing on the beach at the sunset time. Concept of friendly family.

I have tended to view God as the commander and I his soldier who follows his orders. Nothing wrong with this – but I don’t think this metaphor fully captures the relationship God wants with me.

Let me explain.

A couple of months ago I sensed that God wanted me to organize a neighborhood potluck in a nearby park. I agreed with him that I thought that a potluck would help build relationships between our neighbors that were vitally needed in our Long Ranger culture. I also thought that having closer relationships might have prevented a couple from not being missed for two weeks after they had been murdered in their home.

However, I balked at the idea of being the organizer. “I don’t want to be stuck doing all the work”, I said to God. “You will haven’t to provide me with an energetic team of neighbors who can help me plan and promote this event or I won’t do it”, I said.

But I begin to move in the direction of organizing the event – and God provided an energetic team of seven people. I asked God to help us pick the right day, the right time, and the right stated purpose – and that we would all would have a good time.

The planning group got along great and each did their part well. The police department even offered to give a brief report at the potluck on the status of the murder investigation.

The picnic was considered a big success. Eight-five people came. The weather was great. Many relationships began or were deepened, the police were informative, the kids had a good time playing volleyball and other games, and the greatest miracle of all, and I had a good time. (Usually being in charge stresses me out).

Many people thanked me for organizing the potluck. But I knew the truth. God was the true organizer. He had impressed me with the need and provided an energetic and talented crew of neighbors to do what he wanted done.

I believe I walked with God in organizing this potluck. It wasn’t so much doing something for God, but doing something with God. I grew closer to God with far less stress than when I try to serve God in my own strength.

What Is Walking with God?

Walking with God is leaning on the Holy Spirit within us to live through our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. We have the power to do as Jesus would do because his life is living through us. “Whoever says he [lives] in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked” (1 John 2:6, ESV).

Walking with God is living in the reality of his intimate love for us. He wants our fellowship, and as we include him in our day to face the challenges, we grow in intimacy with him.

Some people object to the belief that God wants to walk with us. They would say that he wants us to follow him, not walk side-by-side with us. Yet, the Bible is full of statements about God walking with his people (Micah 6:8; Genesis 6:9; Genesis 5:22-24; Isaiah 41:10)

I would agree that he wants us to follow him, but in the context of an interactive and intimate partnership where he takes the lead and we cooperate.

I don’t think we can adequately partner with him if we are following ten paces behind. This false picture lends itself to the practice of “Just give me my orders God and I will follow them the best I can in my own strength.”

How Do We Walk with God?

One way we walk with God is to discover what he wants done and join him in doing it. This is what I did in organizing the potluck. I sensed that this was something that God wanted done and wanted me to be a part of it.

So, I stepped out in fear and trembling, relied that he would guide and support, and watched him put on a potluck that was beyond natural explanations. And I grew closer to him in the process.

How we walk with God is to rely on him. We often don’t do this as indicated in this statement from Paul, “After starting your Christian lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort?” (Galatians 3:3, NLT). We forget to rely on God to make things happen and to accept the humble role of walking with him as he meets our challenges.

Finally, talking to him throughout the day is a wonderful way to walk with him. “Cast your burden upon the LORD and He will sustain you” (Psalm 55:22). God yearns for intimacy with us. When we share with him our joys, struggles, and disappointments in prayer throughout the day, he gives us the power to walk with him.

We are a people who greatly respect those who are well educated and intelligent. We marvel at people who can speak well and who write books.

However, what I have grown to admire even more is someone who is wise. Someone who is wise has taken their knowledge, experiences and intelligence and have made good decisions. These would be decisions like right priorities, having a good marriage, taking care of oneself physically, and living a moral life.

Who cares how smart someone is if they haven’t applied that smartness to living well?

What Wise Living Is Not

Living wisely doesn’t mean having the same standards of honesty as everyone else. “Do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility towards God?” (James 4:4). It is never wise to be dishonest, even if we succeed in the short-run.

Sometimes it means being different. And being different is often costly. A few years ago I tried to teach to my church new ways to grow spiritually that I had learned in seminary. I will admit that some of the teachings broke with tradition, but they all were biblical.

But alas, the teachings were rejected and I was rejected from leadership. But I wouldn’t have been wise to compromise and only teach tradition instead of what God wanted taught.

Living wisely often means living differently than the respected members of our society. The Bible tells us that not many influential, powerful, or rich people are wise (1 Corinthians 1:26-31). Yet, we are prone to model our lives after them.

Living wisely is not seeking what most people seek. Things like pleasure as a major focus, flashy cars, and promotion at the expense of the family. God tells us, “All that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from [Me] but is from the world” (1 John 2:15-17, ESV).

What Wise Living Is          

Living Wisely

Living Wisely

Wise living begins with following God’s will for our life. Does this mean that I wasn’t living wisely until I became a Christian in 1971?

Well, what do you think it means when God says in his Bible, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 9:10)? It means a lot of us are not wise from God’s perspective, no matter how highly others regard us.

Wise living means that we apply the Bible to our life, and not just listen to it. Yet, many of us have been seduced by intellectualism that neglects the clear teaching that only knowledge that is used makes us wise (Matthew 7:24-28).

Wise living is “peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere” (James 3:17, ESV). It is not selfish, envious, and boastful (James 3:14-16).

Wise living is being cautious, careful to avoid evil, and being meek (controlled strength).

So, are you wise? Do you want to become wiser? I hope we all can answer with a strong yes to at least the second question.

A promise I often claim is the following:

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives to all [people] generously and without reproach, and it will be given to [them]” (James 1:5.)